Concepts of Love 2
Your perception of love and your style of loving are all rolled up with your temperament. Your personality, your disposition and natural inclination make up who you are and determine the attitude you portray and the vibes you exude in your love and sexual relationship. Everything about your personality is rolled up into a mould termed temperament.
Temperament is your fundamental nature and mood. It is the way you respond to challenges and restraints, and to stimuli like fear, irritation, anxiety, etc. It is also about your emotion, attentiveness to details, attention span, and sensitivity to love and sexual activity.
There are four basic temperaments, Sanguine, Choleric, Phlegmatic and Melancholy. Each of these four temperaments exerts influence on the way a person exhibits love and seeks sexual gratification in a relationship.
THE SANGUINE LOVER
The Sanguine people are fun-lovers, playful, entertaining, easily amused, and easily bored, too. They have an optimistic nature and are enthusiastic and animated about life and the activities around them. Yes, they’re affectionate, generous and open-minded. They have sociable manners; being approachable and trusting of others, they build relationships effortlessly in contact with others. Sanguines have personable personalities; engaging smiles, smooth talkers, and are very fluent with words.
Sanguines want to be involved in everything going on around them because they hate solitude and boredom. Their attention span is short-lived if the activity or person is not excitable. They can change their focus or interest in an instant if they become bored.
The Sanguine lovers are emotionally versatile and so can adapt to almost any relationship situation. Because of their adventurous nature, a relationship with a Sanguine person can be a rollercoaster of fun. They’re free-spirited and don’t desire to control others, but don’t try to clip their wings.
Sanguine lovers are good listeners and very attentive to their partners... Though talkative, Sanguine people find self-expository difficult, though they can talk about themselves or their attitude in a jocular, non-serious manner.
They don’t store their thoughts and emotions nor hide their feelings; if they think it or feel it, they express it. They bear their hearts out without restraint or conscious thought to their partner’s feelings.
Sanguine people have a relaxed attitude towards sex. Most sanguine doesn’t link sex to love; to them, sex is a recreation and a fun ride. They can engage in a one-night stand just for the fun of it. They can be both erotic and ludic lovers.
THE CHOLERIC LOVER
Choleric people are extroverts with independent minds and good analytical skills. They are bold, strong-willed, self-confident, self-sufficient and ambitious. In their dealings with others, they are firm and direct to the point when communicating with others. Cholerics can be ruthless and decisive. They lack empathy for the feelings of others and show no compassion when they decide to take action, especially when offended.
They are domineering, opinionated and controlling freaks, so they tend to enjoy being in charge and always want to have their way in everything. They enjoy discussing and planning activities upfront, they don’t like surprises. They’re purpose-driven and goal-oriented in nature.
People with a choleric temperament don’t play shenanigans in a relationship as sanguine people. They don’t easily fall in love; Choleric people approach a relationship in a calculative and analytical manner. They’re Shopping List Lovers, It’s important to them that their potential partner shares the same aspirations and interests with them and so they choose partners cautiously. But once they find someone who they think is worthy of their time and effort, they will focus intensively on that person. They can be very romantic and deeply committed to their partners. They don’t easily change their minds. they are not so expressive of their emotion with words rather they use actions and acts of kindness, care and attentiveness to show their love. They are tenacious and can hold on to a relationship even if it wasn’t going in their favour.
Most have a high sex drive and so are sexually active, but they don’t hop from one partner to another; once they are in a committed relationship, they constantly demand sex from their partners. They’re full of energy and passion.
THE PHLEGMATIC LOVER
Phlegmatics are introverts, calm, unemotional, passive, easygoing, indecisive, accepting, receptive, kind, self-content and faithful. They’re curious, observant, persistent and consistent at whatever they do. Because they are slow and indecisive, they don’t make quick decisions and tend to procrastinate easily.
Phlegmatics are not outgoing or pushful in whatever they do. They don’t make things happen; they are the laid-back types that just let things happen. They are shy but warm and affectionate in their response to others; They don't have a large network of friends but are possessive of their friendships and very loyal to their friends. When they choose lovers, it is always within their circle of friends, someone on the same emotional ground as them. They’re friendship lovers; they tend to choose partners within their circle of friends, someone who has been around them for some time.
They find it difficult to break long-standing relationships regardless of the odds because they always go for a long-term commitment where they seek bonding, nurturing, and intimate attachment. However, once a relationship is broken, they seldom return. They can hold a grudge.
Phlegmatics lovers are very sensitive and can be deeply hurt by rejection, though they usually hide their true feelings behind their stoic expressions. Phlegmatics are slow to warm up to people or things but will be accommodating once they do and they will truly give themselves and work on maintaining intimacy with their significant others. They will avoid conflicts and confrontations; they will likely make adjustments and sacrifices to keep their relationships going.
They prefer a relaxed and routine life, free of anxieties and stresses. The real Phlegmatic will avoid getting too involved with people and life in general. They don’t want anything that will rock their lifeboat.
Of the four temperaments, they’re the most romantic. They fall in love most often and want a romantic and cosy relationship. They plan romantic evenings and weekends. The types that send you romantic cards or write love letters, and send romantic love messages to your phone. They're affectionate, love to cuddle, hug, to give gifts and will not be abashed to confess their love. To them, sex and love are interconnected and sexual activity has to take place in a romantic setting and style, though they don’t seek sexual activity early in a relationship and when they eventually engage in sex, they will expect that a meaningful relationship will develop because they like to uphold tradition.
THE MELANCHOLIC LOVER
Melancholies are introverts, reserved, timid and moody. Though they have logical, analytical minds and are quality-oriented individuals. Melancholies are perfectionists. This tends to make them conscientious, cautious, anxiety-prone and sensitive to others' opinions of them.
Melancholies fear taking risks, making wrong decisions, and being criticised, so they take time to think about their options before deciding. Also, they need enough information, time alone to process the information, and a detailed plan of action to function well in whatever they do.
They are creative, gifted and capable people. Because of their creative nature, they can be oversensitive to details, for they always want to do things right.
Melancholic lovers are more pragmatic and down-to-earth in their relationships. They don’t choose their lovers impulsively rather, they do it cautiously, based on common sense and compatibility. Also, Melancholics choose their life partners considering the opinions of their friends and family members. Because they’re loyal to family and care much about people’s opinions of the choices they make, they tend to need friends and relatives to approve of their partners before they make a commitment to them.
Intimacy with Melancholics develops slowly, however; they can be very romantic and passionate when in love. Sex for Melancholics is for relaxation but not as a playful adventure in the case of sanguine people. Because they are reserved and suspicious of people’s intentions, they usually have fewer sexual experiences before marriage. they are the least sexually active of the four temperaments.
