10 agonising things short women go through every day.

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They say good things come in small packages, and we BET those girls who are below five feet in height would have to agree. People believe they can fit you in their pocket and don’t hesitate to say it out loud. You want to punch them in the face, don’t you? We get it; life is tough for a short girl. And after looking at all the things you go through, we feel your pain. 

1.Forever in heels: Be it a red carpet event or a beach vacation, half of your time is spent figuring out which pair of heels to wear.
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2.The art of hemming: If those gorgeous pants are not available in the kids department, you might have to pick them up from the adult section. But then comes the pain of hemming them up. Oh, wait; you’re a pro at that, aren’t you? 

3.Top shelf problems: Reaching the top shelf is just a pain in the neck, literally. You have to go up counters and shelves until you finally make it to the top. 

4.ID everywhere: Every time you approach a club, pub or a cinema for an A-rated movie, you have to show your ID card. People refuse to believe that you are actually old enough to enter 

5.Tippy-toe syndrome: Half of your life has been spent on tippy toes. Whether it is kissing your man or trying to get something from the top shelf, tippy-toes all the way. 

6.Forehead kisses: You are tired of getting kissed on the forehead. Men are so lazy that they just won’t bend down enough to reach your lips. 

7.Weight woes: Every time you gain few kilos, everyone notices. You have to think twice (heck, maybe three times) about that extra cupcake or those fries. 

8.High chair problems: Your feet don’t reach the ground, irrespective of the chair you are sitting on. You have to carefully balance your weight and jump off, every time your behind is perched on a bar stool. 

9.Taking a selfie: If your friends are tall, convincing them to bend down when clicking that selfie is such a pain. You have to tell your bestie that she looks like a yeti for her to stoop down to your level. 

10.Extra help: Any place you go (and especially on aircrafts), there are people who are always ready to help you out, whether you ask for it or not. They are ever ready to help you with bags and other heavy stuff they think you can’t manage. Frankly, you shouldn’t complain.

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7 Ways To Show People How Much You Care

 

by BRITTANY HARB 

We often become too busy to remember the simple things that make life really great, and that we typically need to be our happiest.

The people that surround us are a very important part of our well-being, and it’s important to show them that! Read on for ways to show people how much you care!

1. A SIMPLE HELLO
One of the easiest ways to show people how much you care is to send a simple hello! It’s so easy to send a quick “hi” with our phones, email or other online tools. We have no excuse! Take a funny snapshot, send a joke or ask about how their day is going. Your message may get to someone at just the right time, when they need it most!

2. HANDWRITTEN ANYTHING
We’re so digital that anything handwritten seems out-of-date. Sometimes, handwritten cards, letters or notes
are super special, though. Drop someone a handwritten note or card — doodles included — and watch their smile spread as they get a wave of memory. You may even feel like a kid again! Address and post your note with an envelope to send via snail mail for an even better surprise.

3. LITTLE SURPRISES
If you’re about to meet a friend and see their favorite candy bar in the checkout line on sale, grab it! Little surprises here and there for those that you love are a great way to show that you’re always thinking about them. Don’t go overboard or over-spend, but splurge when you have the extra few dollars. It’s a great way to show people that you remember what they like, and remember them!

4. BEING SUPPORTIVE
Listening, giving our full attention and being supportive are some of the most meaningful ways to show someone you care. Giving someone your ear wholeheartedly — so that you can give them sound advice, if they ask — understanding their point-of-view and sharing in a part of their hardship really shows how much you care. If a friend is having a rough couple of weeks, be sure to check in on them every couple of days. They’ll remember your thoughtfulness — even when everything is solved!

5. BEING HELPFUL
It’s so easy to forget to be helpful around friends! We become so comfortable around people that we miss out on opportunities to show our generosity. Make sure to always offer up help when you’re friend is stressed, or even when you’re just hanging out at their house. Don’t leave a mess! Be as helpful to a good friend as you’d be to a new acquaintance.

6. REMEMBERING
People notice when you remember certain things about them or their lives. Remember your friends’ birthdays, special days and which flavor of birthday cake is their favorite! You can’t remember everything, but remembering the small stuff can go a long way as well. Did they tell you about a daunting presentation at work? Ask how it went some time that week!

7. PLANNING AHEAD
It’s so easy to just make last-minute plans all the time, but scheduling something ahead with someone shows them you care (especially parents or family members!) Call before your week’s plans are set, and ask if they have time during the week! You’ll feel great having scheduled important, meaningful time, and will make those around you feel great, too!
It’s a lot of fun to show people how much you care. Give these suggestions a try, and see if life seems brighter!

Nobody knows what I feel (Part 2)

 

WIDOWHOOD 2

 They lowed the coffin into the grave, a pastor prayed and they thrust a shovel into her hand. She stared at it in confusion until someone held her hand, dipped the shovel on the heap of sand and guided it to the open grave, upturned the sand, and it fell on the shiny coffin with a soft thud.

They removed the shovel from her, someone else, a woman, took her hand and led her away from the graveside, to a chair specially kept for her as the chief mourner. She sat, dazed and dissociated from the clatters around her; the music, the drinking, the eating and the hushed murmuring voices.

She watched with clear but unseeing eyes, the lineup of people who came to sympathise with her. “Take heart,” they told her. She nodded her head. “The Lord is your strength,” another said. “Trust God, He knows why it happened, It is well with you.” Someone else said. “Madam, sorry o, take heart, you will get over it,” yet another said. The words kept coming, for each person that came up had something to say. She wanted to scream, to ask them to stop, but they would think she had gone mad.

She bowed her head, and asked God when this nightmare will be over, she wanted to wake up, she wanted this to be just a bad dream, and she wanted to believe her husband was yet to come back from his trip to the east. Yet even when her heart refused to accept it, the reality was there before her.

With this thought, came the sudden realisation she would never see him again; a strangled cry erupted from her mouth. The tears she thought have dried up came down in torrent. They held her as her body rocked with the force of her anguish. “Shut up and behave yourself, your crying will not bring him back, his gone, and nothing will change that fact.” A woman scolded her.

Everyone has been telling her to shut up, to endure, to have faith in God. But does anybody understand what she was really feeling. How her heart was bleeding. How everything seemed so unreal to be real.

Sister, maybe you feel nobody understands, but we do it’s a route many has tread before you. Welcome to the club of widowhood, this is just the beginning of another phase of your life. Some facts to hold on to, apart from God, you’re alone; forget the promises made by friends and family to assist you.  With time you will discover most of your friends, especially the married ones will keep you at arm’s-length after the initial sympathy; they wouldn’t want you to be a walking temptation to their husbands, nor a burden to them. Also, after a year many will disperse from your life, but those who stick with you are the true friends, the ones who really understand.

Nobody knows what I feel (part 1)

 WIDOWHOOD

“Madam, we’re sorry.” The messenger of doom stood, face blank and devoid of any emotion as he muttered his apology.

She halted her pensive pacing and turned, eyes wide, face stained with tears, she stared at the doctor uncomprehendingly at first.

“We did our best but….” He raised his shoulders in helpless shrug

She closed the distance between them. “What did you just say?”

“I’m sorry ma; there is nothing to do anymore.”

She held his shirt and let out an ear piercing scream. All activities in the hospital ceased as her scream bounced off the walls.

The doctor gently pried her hands away from his shirt, and led her to a chair. She collapsed on it sobbing profusely.

Everyone stood still, confused and helpless as they listen to her agonized cry.

Sister, welcome to widowhood.