Before going shopping, it is advisable to make a list of things to buy; otherwise, you will buy what you want rather than what you need. A person who wants to build a solid and beautiful house must have a building plan. If not it will end up being what you have in mind versus what you have on the ground. Plans are good for guidance.
When making relationship choices, you must know what you need from a partner; otherwise, impulsiveness and randomness will dictate your choice. If you don’t have an idea of what you need you're likely to accept anyone including a toxic partner because you want to be in a relationship.
We take our time training for a career and learning new skills but we don’t take time to plan or prepare for how to choose our partners. A relationship will make or mar the quality of your life, it is not something to go into blindly or based on feelings alone and the shining wraps of romantic love. Nay, it’s your life, it’s your joy and your happiness on the balance. It will affect your mental health and equilibrium in life.
You do not have a choice in choosing who your parents and siblings are. But you have a choice in choosing who will be your friend, who you will allow into your life. Do not make this choice with triviality because your life depends on it.
Uncertainty and lack of direction in relationships create feelings of fear, anxiety, and self-doubt. When you know what you want, it helps you make firm decisions about your relationship goals without fear.
