Chimaobi Akachukwu, Author & Entrepreneur.

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Mr Chimaobi Akachukwu is a man of versatility, he is not just an author/scriptwriter but also an Audit/Cost Control Officer, Sales and Marketing Specialist, Talent Manager, Educationist and the founder of Joyfid Afrika Group Company, which is into book sales and marketing.

In this insightful interview, he talks about his writing journey, the challenges of being a writer, and the writing of his book, the Burning Cloud.

Who is Chimaobi Akachukwu?

I’m an African, born and raised in the northern part of Nigeria, where life is learned the hard way. I’m an entrepreneur, writer, publisher, and audit/control professional. I’m the CEO and founder of Joyfid Afrika, which was established in 2010 in northern Nigeria and officially registered with the CAC in 2018. I also have ARYONA, an upcoming online e-commerce store. Additionally, I have a cleaning service brand called HOST, which will be unveiled soon.

What inspired you to become a writer?

At the age of 12, while in school, I enjoyed writing, but I never thought about publishing my work. It never seemed to make it into the publishing space. I had hoped to see my work featured in the school magazine, but that never happened. Despite spending late nights writing, my efforts went unnoticed. At times, I felt as though I were in a trance while writing as if the words were being whispered to me, guiding what I should write. Even during moments of domestic chaos, an inspired idea or story would quietly come to me, like a whisper in my mind.

Back then, I carried a pen and a small notebook with me everywhere, ready to jot down ideas whenever they came. I felt disheartened during my O-level years, as I kept hoping my work would be published in the school magazine, but it never was. However, this disappointment didn't demoralize me. Instead, it fuelled my determination to prove that I didn't need my work to be published in the school magazine. I realized that I had limited myself by thinking that the school magazine was the peak of my potential. The world was far bigger than that, and I could achieve more.

This shift in perspective came when I read books like I Have a Dream by Martin Luther King Jr., Never Give Up by Joyce Meyer, and some of John C. Maxwell's works. These books gave me the courage to keep going, to never give up, and to strive for even greater things.

Tell us about your book, the Burning Cloud. 

Burning Cloud reflects humanity's greed and lust for material gratification while highlighting how living with honesty has never been regretful. On the other hand, it is a story filled with conspiracy, betrayal, hatred, and many of the harsh realities we face in today's world. The novel also delves into various cultural backgrounds, offering a deeper understanding of the world we live in.

Why did you write it?

The reality of Burning Cloud came from my personal experiences and encounters. Some parts of the story are drawn from my own life, particularly after I lost my father to the cold hand of death. I also recall attending a funeral in a village in Nsukka for a young man who was the only child of an elderly woman. The emotions I felt that day were incredibly cold and haunting.

While I was in Anambra, I was contracted to write a full manuscript for a woman named Miss Ginika. I began the script and showed it to her. She liked the plot and storylines, and we agreed on a contract. However, she never signed it. Initially, I promoted the book in a magazine, though it wasn’t titled Burning Cloud at the time.

After much back-and-forth for her to sign the contract and make the payment to own the manuscript outright, she never followed through. I believe she wasn’t expecting me to ask for payment or a binding agreement. She likely thought I would give her the manuscript for free. When I realized she wasn’t serious and wasn’t prepared to compensate me, I decided to retain the rights to my work. I then expanded the story, incorporating more of my life experiences into the script. Although Burning Cloud wasn’t my first book, it became a story that truly reflected my journey.

How long did it take you to write the book?

It took me three months.

What message does the book convey to your readers?

The book conveys several important messages, but I will highlight just a few:

Honesty always pays off.

Stand your ground and never give in to any situation you find yourself in.

Treat others with fairness, just as you would want to be treated.

Be helpful and trust your instincts.

Cultivate a heart of giving and assist those in need.

Never give up, no matter the oppression you face.

Is anything in the book based on real-life experiences or purely all imagination?

Not everything in the book is pure imagination; much of it is based on real-life experiences. For example, the way Sorrandi’s father was buried, along with the demands of the church before and during the burial, reflects actual events. As you dive deeper into the book, more will be revealed.

How/where do you get information or ideas for the book?

The ideas and inspiration for my books often come to me in my sleep, where I feel like my stories are whispered to me. I also travel extensively to gather material for specific stories. With every twist in my narrative, I strive to connect closely with real-life experiences. During my travels and tours, I’m always writing—whether on my computer or in my notebook.

What was one of the most surprising things you learned in writing the book?

It has taught me many things, but I will mention just a few. One of the key lessons I’ve learned about writing is that there is no one specific style. The twist in the story, the suspense, and even the ending don’t always have to be conclusive. Sometimes, you can leave the story open-ended, creating suspense as if it's heading toward a closed ending.

What is your work schedule like when you're writing?

The countdown begins at 8 p.m. and continues until midnight, running through until 6 a.m. the next morning, after which I take a short break. Sometimes, I choose to work for a full 24 hours a week, without interruption.

How many books have you written? What are the challenges you faced in writing and publishing them?

I have written four books. One of my biggest challenges during the writing process was when my computer’s hard drive crashed. While publishing was not a major obstacle, finding a professional editor within the right timeframe proved difficult. Most editors were always occupied whenever I reached out to them.

Is there any author or book that influenced you either growing up or as an adult?

Cyprin Ekensi
Chinua Achebe
Chimamanda Adichie

What do you consider your best accomplishment as a writer?

Earning a Golden Badge Award from Motivational Strips, the world's most active writer forum, having a book published, and gaining acceptance from readers.

What is your best work so far? Or is the best yet to come?

All my works are equally important to me; I don’t consider one to be better than the other. I put the same amount of energy into writing each of them.

What are the challenges of being a writer in Nigeria?

Getting your manuscript published and making your work available to readers through effective book sales channels is not easy.

How do you promote your books and are they yielding fruits?

Through our partner bookstores, Joyfid Afrika, social media platforms, and partner literary and media channels, yes, it did.

Give us an interesting, fun fact about the writing of the Burning Cloud.

An interesting and fun fact about writing The Burning Cloud is that I never initially thought about writing it, nor did I have the title in mind. I was focused on my collection of short stories when I met Ginika, who approached me to write for her as a ghostwriter, offering to pay me outright. However, the initial concept of the story was completely different from what it is now, especially after she refused to pay.

While working on my next short story, the words began to evolve in unexpected ways, leading to a unique narrative. The title The Burning Cloud came to me only after I had finished writing the book. During the process, I experienced some of the longest nights of my life, often working straight through for a week (24 hours a day), without going outside. I bought all the groceries I needed and stayed indoors, fully immersed in writing.

Where is the best channel to reach you and learn more about your books?

Facebook:

https://www.facebook.com/share/16AiQuXRBR/?mibextid=wwXIfr

Book

https://bambooks.io/book/12647/burning-cloud

https://joyfidafricamedia.blogspot.com/

Linkedin:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/chimaobi-emeka-akachukwu-a88aa7182?utm_source=share&utm_campaign=share_via&utm_content=profile&utm_medium=ios_app

Overcoming Insecurity in a Relationship

Insecurity in a relationship can stem from various sources, including experiences, low self-esteem, lack of trust, or fear of abandonment. If insecurity is not addressed, it can create tension and misunderstandings. It can even lead to the breakdown of the relationship. Here are some ways to address insecurity in a relationship:

1. Identify the Root Cause

• Reflect on what is making you feel insecure. Is it past trauma, fear of rejection, or self-doubt?

• Talk to your partner about any specific triggers.

• Consider whether your insecurities are based on reality or assumptions.

2. Communicate Openly

• Share your feelings with your partner without blaming them.

• Encourage your partner to express their feelings as well.

• Establish a safe space for honest conversations.

3. Build Self-Confidence

• Focus on self-love and self-worth outside of the relationship.

• Engage in activities that make you feel good about yourself.

• Set personal goals and work on self-improvement.

4. Strengthen Trust

• Be honest and transparent with each other.

• Avoid behaviours that create suspicion.

• Show appreciation and reassurance to your partner.

5. Avoid Overthinking

• Stop assuming the worst without evidence.

• Challenge negative thoughts with logic and reality.

• Practice mindfulness to stay in the present moment.

6. Set Healthy Boundaries

• Know what is acceptable and what is not in the relationship.

• Respect each other’s individuality and personal space.

• Avoid codependency by maintaining your own identity.

7. Seek Professional Help

• If insecurities are deep-rooted, therapy or counselling can help.

• A relationship coach or counsellor can provide guidance.

• Individual therapy can help address personal insecurities.

8. Focus on the Positives

• Remind yourself why your partner is with you.

• Celebrate small moments and positive experiences together.

• Keep a gratitude journal about your relationship.

Being A Woman & More

Going through grief

Trauma is an inevitable part of life. Each new day presents its challenges, distress, and struggles. How we embrace and navigate these experiences determines their impact on our lives. We can choose to be victors or victims. We can allow circumstances to define us, or we defy them and pursue our goals.

I have walked through storms and faced moments that knocked me down and left me helpless. Yet, even when I was down, I refused to stay there. I rose and moved forward with God by my side towards victory.

Five years into my marriage, my husband passed away. My world, once filled with light, and laughter suddenly plunged into darkness and sorrow. 

The weight of that loss was suffocating, and the temptation to quit life loomed large. But my two young children became my lifeline; their presence kept me afloat. It took years for me to emerge from that dark shroud and truly live, rather than merely exist.

Widowhood is daunting. When everyone departs, the loneliness that hits, and days filled with unbearable quietness, lingering grief, and pain, feel insurmountable. The fear of facing life, the challenges, and the responsibilities of parenting the children alone are overwhelming.

During this challenging time, I felt blessed to have my family and my husband’s family form a protective shield around me. My mother never left my side. For months, I slept in her room with my children. I could only sleep when I saw her opening her prayer book at night. She was a deeply prayerful woman who never missed midnight prayers, and her devotion was a calming balm to my soul. My grandmother, a prayer warrior also, strengthened me with her prayers and encouraging words.

During the burial, my father-in-law hovered nearby, offering care and support. My mother-in-law, though devastated by the loss of her firstborn, ensured I was okay. She took care of my mother and me throughout that painful time we spent in the village for the burial. My husband’s siblings were wonderful and supportive, throughout.

My father-in-law often invited us to spend Christmas with them in the village, sending transport money when I accepted. My mother-in-law would say, “Ngozi, don’t buy anything when coming; I’ve already bought everything you and the children need. Just come home.” Visiting them was always a pleasure, I could count on Mama’s warm welcome and the special soup she would make for me. And, my father-in-law would ensure they deliver fresh palm wine every morning for me.

I had a caring mother-in-law, who periodically sent me money from her pension, always checking in on our well-being, and a father-in-law who ensured I was comfortable. Their love and support lessened the pain.

However, over time, that protective shield disintegrated. First, my mother, who had helped care for my children while I navigated life’s demands, joined the angels in heaven. Her loss was devastating, and my children felt it deeply. When their father died, they were too young to grasp the gravity of the situation, but my mother’s death left a void they struggled with for a long time. They missed visiting Mama’s room for snacks after school.

Next came another heart-wrenching blow: my mother-in-law succumbed to cancer after a long battle. Her absence felt monumental. She had been a steadfast presence, and supportive, ensuring my eldest son comfortably finished his secondary education in the village. 

Soon after, my father-in-law passed away. Years later, my father, who has always supported me emotionally and financially, joined the League of Ancestors. 

With the elders gone, I assumed the role of an elder overnight, shouldering enormous responsibilities with unwavering resolve. When life hands you the baton, you take it and continue the race.

Loneliness 

My sun went behind the clouds,

Plunging me into an abyss of pain.

A dreary life to live. 

Where two walked

I trod alone in trepidation.

Walking the twisting road of life,

With garlands of sorrow.

The emptiness throbbed

My heart wailed with pain.

Waves of grief, 

Curls of gloom,

laced my days.

And loneliness

Enveloped my world.

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Face One Thing and Face It Squarely! By Ejiro J. Otive-Igbuzor

                                                                                        Today, I want to talk about a powerful phrase: "Face one thing and face it squarely." I am preaching to myself. Take what is useful to you. 

                                                              Many individuals experience moments when the weight of their worries feels like an anchor, dragging them down into a sea of non-achievement. However, it is essential to understand that worries do not solve problems. In fact, they often cloud our vision and paralyse our progress.

I encourage you to take another look at your 2024 goals. Have you written them down? Are they clear? If you are feeling overwhelmed by the weight of what lies ahead, I urge you to be kind to yourself. This year has been challenging—many did not even survive the difficulties that we have faced. Yet, here you are! You made it through the storm, and that alone is a testament to your resilience.

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” (Jeremiah 29:11) 

The year is not over yet! There is still time to achieve a great deal. Remember, He who owns time and seasons can manipulate them in your favour. It is not too late for you to accomplish remarkable things.

This is the moment to pause and listen for clear instructions. Lean into that still small voice of the Holy Spirit, who is ever ready to guide you. Ask Him for wisdom and clarity in the decisions you need to make moving forward.

                                                                                                                  So, how can one turn worries into wins? Here are some steps to help you achieve results:

1. Clarity: Be crystal clear about what you wish to achieve. Write down your goals in specific, measurable terms. Clarity is power; it provides a destination to aim for. As the Bible says, “Without vision, the people perish.” (Proverbs 29:18)

2. Prioritisation: Not everything is of equal importance. Use the Pareto Principle—focus on the 20% of tasks that will yield 80% of the results. Determine which actions will move the needle for you.

3. Take Action: Once you have clarity and prioritise, it is time to act. Do not wait for the perfect moment; take the next step, however small. As James 2:26 reminds us, “Faith without works is dead.”

4. Be Resilient: Expect setbacks, but do not allow them to define you. When challenges arise, face them squarely. Every obstacle is an opportunity for growth. “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” (Philippians 4:13)

5. Reflect and Adjust: Regularly assess your progress. Are you on track? If not, make the necessary adjustments. Remember, flexibility is key to navigating the journey of achievement.

6. Celebrate Small Wins: Acknowledge every step you take towards your goals and celebrate your progress, no matter how small. This will fuel your motivation to keep going.

Today, I challenge you to face your one thing squarely. With clarity and a focused heart, you can achieve incredible things. The year is not over, and the best is yet to come. You possess everything you need to succeed right within you. 

Remember, you are not alone on this journey. The Lord is with you, guiding you every step of the way. Trust in His timing and watch as He opens doors you never thought possible.

Let us embrace this moment and step boldly into our futures.

The land is no longer green

The land is no longer green

Our people go in search

Of greener pastures

As a troop of locusts

Have devoured

Our verdant pasturage 

Professors of oppression

Who seek glories

With tinted stories.

Devoures, who loot and scatter

Instead of build and gather.

Their stings of power

Painful to bear.

And so, our branches stretched, 

Across foreign lands.

Like sheep without folds

They forage in alien lands.

Self-Actualisation: A Journey to Personal Fulfilment

 

Self-actualisation is about achieving your dreams, and passion. It is the full realisation of your creative, intellectual, and social potential through an internal drive for external rewards like money, status, power or fame. However, self-actualisation is not all about making money or achieving the highest status, rather, it is a desirable state achieved through reaching your full personal potential, that will open doors of possibilities for you. So self-actualisation means leveraging your abilities to reach your potential. It is an individual process and varies significantly from person to person. 

Self-actualisation is a concept that originated from the work of Abraham Maslow, who introduced the concept in his Hierarchy of Needs, to represent the pinnacle of human motivation. It is the process of realising one's fullest potential, transcending basic needs, and striving for personal fulfilment and creativity.

Maslow identified several characteristics of self-actualised individuals. These include a strong sense of purpose, creativity, spontaneity, and a commitment to personal growth. Such individuals not only focus on their own needs but also exhibit a sense of empathy and concern for the well-being of others. This interconnectedness shows that self-actualisation is not merely a solitary endeavour; it thrives within a community and fosters relationships built on mutual respect and understanding.

At its core, self-actualisation involves a deep understanding of oneself. It requires individuals to confront their strengths, weaknesses, desires, and fears. This journey of self-discovery is essential, as it lays the groundwork for authentic living. People who achieve self-actualisation often display a profound sense of self-awareness, enabling them to make choices that align with their true values and passions. This self-awareness drives them to pursue goals that resonate deeply with their identity.

Moreover, the path to self-actualisation is unique for each person. While some may find fulfilment through artistic expression or intellectual pursuits, others might seek it through helping others or exploring the natural world. This diversity reflects the richness of human experience and underscores the importance of pursuing one's passions, no matter how unconventional they may seem. Recognising that self-actualisation is a lifelong journey rather than a fixed destination is crucial. As we evolve, so too do our goals and aspirations.

The quest for self-actualisation can be particularly challenging in today's fast-paced and often superficial world. Societal pressures, materialism, and the pursuit of external validation can distract us from pursuing our true paths in life. However, cultivating self-awareness and mindfulness can help us reconnect with our inner selves. Engaging in our passion or creative exploration can facilitate this process, providing clarity and direction.

Self-actualisation is a deeply personal journey towards achieving our fullest potential. It involves a commitment to self-discovery, growth, and authentic living. Understanding and embracing our unique paths, help us foster a sense of purpose and fulfilment that transcends mere existence. Ultimately, the pursuit of self-actualisation enriches not only ourselves but also the people around us, as it nurtures empathy, creativity, and a shared vision of a meaningful life.

Achieving self-actualisation is a personal journey that involves several key steps:

1.  Self-Awareness

   Reflect on Your Values: Understand what truly matters to you.  Practices can help clarify your core beliefs and desires.

   Recognise Your Strengths and Weaknesses: Take stock of your skills and note areas for improvement. Embrace your unique qualities.

 2. Set Personal Goals

   Define Your Aspirations: Identify what you want to achieve in various aspects of your life, career, relationships, personal growth, etc.

   Create a Plan: Break down your goals into actionable steps. This makes the process more manageable and achievable.

 3. Embrace Growth

   Cultivate a Growth Mindset: View challenges as opportunities for learning rather than obstacles. This mindset encourages resilience and adaptability.

   Seek New Experiences: Engage in activities outside your comfort zone to expand your horizons and stimulate personal development.

 4. Nurture Creativity

   Express Yourself: Find outlets for creativity, whether through art, writing, music, or other forms. This expression can enhance your sense of self.

   Explore New Ideas: Stay open to new perspectives and innovations. Learning from diverse sources can spark inspiration.

 5. Build Meaningful Relationships

   Connect with Others: Surround yourself with supportive and inspiring individuals who encourage your growth.

   Practice Empathy: Cultivate compassion and understanding for others, which can enrich your own experiences and insights.

 6. Pursue Passion

   Engage in Activities You Love: Make time for hobbies and interests that energise you. Passionate pursuits can lead to fulfilment and joy.

   Align Work with Values: If possible, seek careers or projects that resonate with your core beliefs and passions.

 7. Practice Mindfulness

   Stay Present: Engage in mindfulness practices, to enhance your awareness of the present moment and reduce stress. Mindfulness can help you become more aware of yourself and the world around you.

   Reflect Regularly: Take time to assess your progress and feelings about your journey. Adjust your goals as needed.

 8. Accept Imperfection

   Be Kind to Yourself: Understand that self-actualisation is not a linear process. Embrace setbacks and view them as part of your growth journey.

   Celebrate Achievements: Acknowledge your progress, no matter how small, and celebrate your efforts along the way.

By incorporating these practices into your life, you can cultivate an environment conducive to self-actualisation. Remember that this journey is unique to each individual, and it’s important to move at your own pace while remaining open to change and growth. Realising one’s potential is a personal endeavour that depends on where your creative, intellectual, or social potential lies.

Affection in Romantic Relationships.

The need to feel loved is one of the essential reasons for a relationship. This feeling of love is reflected through affection. It is a demonstration and affirmation of love for your partner. Affection helps partners to bond and creates a relationship of closeness and connection. 

In a loving relationship, affection is the glue that holds partners together. Consciously show affection because lack of affection brings up other issues in a relationship. Partners need to feel loved or other negative thoughts could follow.

One of the fuels that power relationships is love. The need to feel loved through affection from your partner is a big emotional need every partner desires. As humans, we constantly crave positive attention; showing affection is the best way to receive and give attention.

Affection is an important part of a healthy relationship because it helps to create a strong bond between two people. It is a way to show love, care, and respect for one another. Affection can also help to reduce stress, build trust, and strengthen communication. 

Four hallmarks of affectionate relationship. 

Accepting your partner.

To feel accepted is a human need that most people have and one of the places people seek this acceptance is in their relationships. The feeling that your partner accepts you regardless of imperfections, flaws, and insecurities, is a big boost in life. Acceptance fosters unity and enables partners to feel comfortable in the relationship without judgment.

Acceptance comes with understanding your partner and trusting them.  It is not just about fitting in with your partner’s lifestyle; it means bringing your partner closer by involving them in all aspects of your life.

When the emotional need to feel accepted is unfulfilled, it can cause secrets to grow and lies to enter and make the relationship toxic or unhealthy.

Valuing your partner.

It is advisable to derive your sense of value from yourself. However, feeling valued by someone you love is a human trait. The show of affection means, your partner values and prioritises your and your contributions in the relationship.

You and your partner may have contributions towards building your relationship, still, beyond these contributions, there exists an emotional need to feel valued for just yourself, aside from the responsibilities you perform.

It is important to try to convey how valuable your partner is to you through affection which is reflected through basic interactions between you and your partner. This can be done with compliments or simply by just telling them. Showing your partner you care, even in non-physical ways, can help your relationship thrive. 

Affection and appreciation convey a sense of being valued by your partner. Feeling valued is a big emotional need in a relationship and acting affectionately towards your partner boosts relationship satisfaction.

Feeling emotionally secure with your partner

Affection conveys a feeling of trust which breeds the feeling of security. Your partner has to feel they can trust you with anything before they feel safe. Everyone has a personal history of trust and the feeling of being safe around others based on their experiences.

Feeling emotionally secure is vital in a relationship because it allows you to free your mind and feelings towards your partner. 

When you feel safe with your partner, you can tell them secrets you would not tell other people and it also means your partner can trust you with anything. The show of affection builds security in a relationship and makes partners more comfortable sharing their feelings.

Ensure your partner always feels safe with you through genuine affection. When people feel safe in relationships, they have a sense of security knowing that their partners have their back.

Feeling an emotional connection with your partner.

It is important to keep the feeling of love burning in your relationship through affection. A relationship is an act where two people come together to share their lives. It is important to remember  you’re two people with separate interests, and experiences. 

When you share your life with someone, you must find a way to harmonise your interest with that person. Emotional connection is crucial to the success of your relationship. This connection implies an alignment with your partner’s interests and needs.

Building connection with your partner is achieved through affectionate gestures of love or physical intimacy. Such acts strengthen the bond of togetherness between the partners.

When partners do not feel connected to one another, they merely becomes two different people living together and in such a situation, it is difficult to be empathetic toward each other.

Affection is a tangible way of showing love and care, showing and receiving affection is an important aspect of any healthy relationship. 

In a romantic relationship, a lack of affection can cause doubts, and conflicts, and may lead to possible issues. Gestures of affection make your partner feel loved, accepted, valued, secure and not alone in the relationship.